Connections to people are necessary for every area of your life. As a college athlete one of your main objectives is to attract people to you who will be beneficial to your athletic career. Making unselfishness a part of your identity helps with this. She shoots with 4 people covering her…… She dribbles down the court for a lay-up. However, there are already 2 other people down court ready to receive a pass from her for a lay-up. She’s upset that she was not the highest scorer even though her team was victorious. She yells at the point guard for…
As an athlete and part of a team, giving up on yourself is not an option! You’re sitting on the bench thinking . . . . My family’s here. When am I going to play? I practice hard. Why ain’t I playing? Why is she playing and I am not? I know that I am better than she is. What is wrong with me? Does the coach not like me? What should I do? The statements above reveal an athlete who is losing her confidence. She is beginning to question her abilities and negatively compare herself to her teammate. Look closer…
As you are discovering your identity, make note of character traits in others that are not in agreement with what you are trying to establish as your identity. Be aware that if you do not know who you want to be, then others can make you into who they want you to be. You will be vulnerable to the manipulation of others – a puppet. “You shouldn’t wear your hair like that!” “This is the big city, Country Girl. Everybody don’t speak to each other like that. You ain’t in the country anymore.” “You weren’t here, but I knew it would…
Part of being responsible means exercising self-control. This includes your actions and your speech in response to your emotions. An example would be controlling yelling in response to anger and frustration as a result of being unable to do something, or because something is more difficult to accomplish than you expect. To be successful you have to be mindful of your actions and speech and how each affects the people around you. What you say can uplift or motivate, or it can tear down, or ruin someone, an organization, or even you. “Come on, you got to catch the ball!” …
Without opponents, there would be no sports. As a college athlete, you are going to have to make honoring and respecting people an integral part of your identity. This includes your opponents. Your actions towards them have an effect on the competition. Also, how you treat your opponents reflect on who you are as a person, and it is representative of what is accepted by the school and the organization for whom you play for. “Number 4 and number 15, you two better stop it!” We were warned by the referee. She pushed me. I pushed her back. She was…
As a college athlete you need to build your identity based on things that will transfer throughout your life after college. Once your athletic career is over, you should be more certain of who you are and with an increased self importance. In March of 1989, my college athletic career at the University of Alabama at Birmingham (UAB) was over. I was no longer a college basketball player. I felt that I was no longer important. Why? I had psychologically identified myself with being a basketball player. I had been a team basketball player since I was 8 years old….
As a college athlete, you are going to have to develop your identity with a strong foundation in attributes that will help you succeed. This will help you become attracted to people and situations that are conducive to your success in college and beyond. Discovering your identity helps you monitor the people you choose to associate with. If you have a solid foundation of who you are, you are going to gravitate toward people who add value to you and support your goals. I knew I should have stayed on campus, but I left anyway. I sat in my car…
As a college athlete, you have some degree of self-confidence. That is, you trust that you have the abilities and qualities required to perform. How much self-confidence you have determines how great you will become. Therefore, it is important for you to find a way to build and maintain your self-confidence in order to be competitive in college and beyond. But, first you have to make sure that your confidence stems from the right place. “No you can’t play! Girls don’t play basketball!” When I wanted to play on my first basketball team in middle school, those were the words…
(Photo by http://www.pexels.com) By Geraline L. Handsome On the way to discovering your identity, you will be associated with many others in college that are also trying to find theirs. Among these are your fellow teammates. They are trying to develop the personal attributes they need to be successful in college and beyond, just as you are. Therefore, it is important that you not hinder their process of finding their identity. Have you ever heard this? “You’re not the boss of me! You don’t tell me what to do!” Did it come from a sibling or someone else? Have you ever…
(Photo credit: http://www.pexel.com) You are in your college years and this is the time of your life where you are trying to discover who you really are. Part of discovering your identity is finding out what personal attributes you need to develop that will make you the best you in college and beyond, and getting rid of those that would hinder you. Image your final game in college. The horn sounds ending the last second of the last quarter of your college career. Now, your teammates and coaches no longer have to, or want to, talk to you. Feel the emotional…